Everyone Can Change - The Mind Workshop

Transform expected and dull to amazing and excellent

Do you ever get the feeling that you are living your life coping with just one more thing after another and only ever dealing with the here and now – fire fighting, rather than focusing on what can make your life zing?

The question that needs asking is “what would you do differently if you had the chance”? Followed by “what is stopping you from doing the things you want to do”?

As an experiment, just quickly list the things that are stopping you – I’ll bet all things on your list are external to you (for example, money, time, partner, fate or possibly luck).  Seldom do we focus on how we can influence our external world, but to do this we need to understand how our thinking influences our internal world.  The most powerful set of tools to enable us to do this are part of the process of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming).

What is NLP?
NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming and encompasses the three most influential components involved in producing human experience: neurology, language and patterning.

We experience the external world through our five senses: sight, hearing, feelings, smell and taste. This is then translated through our thought processes, which can be either conscious or unconscious – based on these neurological experiences our physiology, emotions and behaviour is affected.

Language is unique to us and it is the way we make sense of the world and communicate our experiences to others, it is important to understand that the words we use influence both our experience and how others perceive what we have experienced.  To underestimate the power of even the most simple language patterns is to miss an opportunity to influence your world.  Neurology and language are the drivers that for our programming which is used to conceptualise experience.

By taking the most basic of understandings of this concept can have a profound affect on how successful we are in our daily lives and our businesses.

The important point to realise is that our experience is created by combinations of these internal representations which form repeating patterns, or ‘programmes’ that we run when we experience  certain event (a fear of spiders for example) to make a significant difference in what ever we do, we need to interrupt or redirect these patterns.  Changes can happen in seconds but we need to understand what to change.

Many of us live our lives based on the expectation of those with whom we interact; we are jovial, loud, a bit dizzy, macho, very flirty, quiet or even austere simply because it is how we think people respond to us more favourably.  This process goes on for years until we become so entrenched in how we appear to others we forget who we really want to be.  The down-side of this is that people then judge us for who we appear to be – we don’t get invited to parties because ‘its not your scene’, we wouldn’t like it ‘because it’s a serious film’ and so on.  When in actual fact it is exactly what we would like.  If you don’t act in a given way people are quick to judge, ‘she’s not herself today’ or ‘that’s not like them’, so how on earth do we change even if we want to?

The reality that we start with is this;

If one person can do it – potentially all people can do it

We may not be all given the same hand of cards in life but we do have the choice of how we play them.

What I don’t want to do here is get hung-up on debates about fate or determined outcomes I would merely say that the law of ‘cause and effect’ is a very powerful influencer - this is, we choose to undertake acts which either expand or limit our freedom.

You can make changes today if you want to – but you must really want to.

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